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On taking a pause, and being honest with ourselves

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I have a huge amount of respect for people who know their limits. For those who recognize that sometimes taking a break is the most sensible way to go, no matter how much responsibility they feel towards their family, work, or friends. We all carry heavy loads at times, and I honestly believe that the world would be a better place if everyone felt that they have a right to say stop, please stop for a second.

This is, of course, a luxury. Not everyone has the support network or simply the choice to take a break when they need it (big or small). Frankly, there is little or no room in our society for stopping when we need to catch a breath. This is especially true at the workplace, where any sign of fatigue is simply interpreted as weakness.

And this is why I’d love to bring to your attention a blog post written by Dreena Burton, vegan cook author and super mama to three girls.

In “Pressing Pause,” Dreena says that she needs to slow down because she feels overwhelmed by her career and her motherlode. As has always been the case with her, her words were so candid and genuine that I really sympathized with her. Her call for a break seems very brave to me, and I think she’s teaching her children an invaluable lesson in self-respect. So, here’s to Dreena, for teaching us a little more than just cooking amazing food.

If you’d like to learn more about Dreena Burton, check out to her website, Plant-Powered Kitchen. And please get one of her cookbooks if you don’t have them yet. I own all of them! (The photo above is my variation on Dreena’s Super-charge-me cookies from her book Eat, Drink and be Vegan).

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Screen addiction: time to take things seriously

First: I’m so sorry for the long absence. My digital break for the holidays was definitely longer than advertised, and no one missed My Little, Green Family more than I did!

It’s been a very intense time for me, trying to juggle freelance work, looking-for-fulltime-work work, and finding a place to live and getting organized for our big move to Toronto. (We’re finally moving to Toronto in May, which is where I have always wanted to live. I’m super excited and yet sad because I will miss my Ottawa friends so much. But more on that later…).

Thank you to all of you who asked about the blog, wondering when it would be back. It’s back now! And hopefully I’ll manage to keep it going on a regular basis again.

Now, to today’s discussion: It’s time to take warnings about screen time seriously.

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I came across two compelling articles this week that I would like to share with you. The first is a blog post by Cris Rowan, a pediatric occupational therapist, who is calling for an all-out ban of handheld devices for children under the age of 12. Rowan cites mounds of research to support her campaign, some of which I find a bit of a stretch (like her use of the term “digital dementia”). Though I wouldn’t necessarily support her call for a ban of handheld devices, Rowan’s summary of reasons to limit screen time for babies and children is a very useful one if you have slipped into complacency and need a reminder to scale back on screen time for your little ones.

You can read the whole thing here:

10 Reasons Why Handheld Devices Should Be Banned for Children Under the Age of 12

The second article I read was published by Time magazine. It cites a study by the Boston Medical Centre which revealed that parents’ use of screen time affected their behaviour towards their children. What called my attention is that the study focused on the parents’ use of technology instead of the children’s, which is an obvious yet sometimes overlooked part of the equation when talking about screen time for children.

The Time article mentions modelling behaviour, which is, if you recall, one of the most important aspects of positive parenting: show your children how to behave by behaving the way you want them to. The piece is, is one word, sad. It shows that distracted parents who were entranced by their screens while having a meal with their kids responded curtly or rudely when the children tried to call their attention away from the devices. I know I’ve been there. I know you’ve been there. And I know it’s totally normal and I don’t want to be a complete freak about being a perfect parent, but reading this did make me want to pay much closer attention to my screen habits.

You can read the Time article here:

Don’t Text While Parenting — It Will Make You Cranky

My sister and her family came to visit us for a couple of days last week. One afternoon, I was surprised to find my 5-year-old nephew reading a book, quiet and focused for almost one hour. My brother-in-law said his son —a very active 5-year-old— has taken up the habit of reading in the afternoons. He credits his son’t nice reading habit to the fact that both him and my sister tend to do just that when they have some down time: grab a magazine or a book and read on the couch for a while.

Like us, my sister and her family don’t have cable and only watch TV on the computer screen occasionally, for short periods of time. Not having a TV means that it is not the default activity for when you’re bored. In their case, reading is their default activity. And that has evidently impacted their son’s habits. On the other hand, my nephew does love the grab his parents’ smartphones and they struggle to keep him away from the phones. And how can you insist that your children don’t play with your phone when that’s what they see you doing all the time?

It’s really up to us to regulate our own behaviour, and take the limiting of screen time more seriously.

What do you think? As always, I’d love to hear from you!